DEAR ALI: Roses Are Red…I am Blue
It’s almost Valentines Day and it’s another year of being single for me. I try not to make it a big deal but I can’t help but feel a little blue when this day rolls around. Any tips on how not to feel so alone?
Thank you for your honest question. It’s one I have asked myself and God many times throughout the years! I want to share one of my favorite verses that has blessed me greatly during this season of being single:
“Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thess 5:16-18)
Be Joyful Always. Paul instructs us to be joyful. Not sometimes. Not only if you have someone. But always. I’ve learned over the years that being joyful is a choice. Make up your mind this Valentines Day to do just that. Be joyful!
How in the heck do you do that, you ask? The next two parts of the verse above give us some hints:
Pray Continually. When we are in constant communion with God through our prayers, it helps take our focus off ourselves. No matter what I am doing–taking a shower, blow drying my hair, driving, cooking, doing the dishes–I am in constant dialogue with God. I tell him what’s on my mind, ask for His opinion on things, giggle at funny things that happen. I find this 24/7 fellowship with God is the key to unlocking His storehouse of peace, love, joy and grace in my life. Sharing our hearts and minds with God through prayer each day initiates some sort of Divine Exchange that I have never experienced through any earthly means. Chocolate, flowers, and a hot date on Valentines Day may be sweet, but kisses from Heaven are priceless!
Give Thanks in all Circumstances. This is one that always throws me for a loop. “Lord, how am I supposed to give thanks when everyone else in the world has a date on Valentines Day and I am left all alone to shrivel up like a prune?” Sound familiar? haha. You’re not alone. But this whole giving thanks thing is a powerful tool through which we can live a fulfilled life if we put it into practice. Just like choosing to be joyful, we can choose to give thanks–even when we don’t feel like it. Whether things are going well in my life or things are going not so well, I make it a point to utter a heartfelt “Thank you Papa…” because I know that in all things God is working for the good of those who love him (Romans 8:28). In ALL things! So giving thanks in ALL circumstances–even being alone on Valentines Day. It’s not easy all the time, I know, but once you get in the habit, you’ll notice God will fill your heart with more of Him. And then you realize you’re really not alone after all!
Whether you are single or married, may you be surrounded with God’s angels this Valentines Day, who are singing songs and rejoicing over your every heart beat…you are so loved!