Sex: So Much More

In last week’s post, I referred to the movie No Strings Attached. Rather than addressing the content of the movie, I related the ‘No Strings Attached’ concept to our relationship with God. As the week went on, my heart was stirring and I couldn’t figure out why.

Then I remembered how I felt when I watched No Strings Attached. Something happened inside me. It was as if the eyes of my heart were shedding tears of sadness and despair–a response to how casually the movie had portrayed the subject of sex. It was nothing more that a skin on skin romp session between people who hardly knew each other. No love. No commitment. No connection. Just… sex.

Oh Father, I thought cringing as I watched, what has happened to our morals?

The heaviness hung like a dark cloud on my Spirit. I went to bed that night feeling God’s heart for the very foundations of our society, which seem to be crumbling beneath us as we speak. How have things gone so far in the opposite direction of the way God intended things to be?

I don’t have the answer to that question, but I feel compelled to at least address it in this weeks’ blog post.

First of all, I am not coming at this topic as a person with a squeaky clean past. God has done His redemptive work in my life and now that I know and have accepted the Truth of His Word, I am absolutely convinced that what it says is the standard by which I must live my life when it comes to sex and sexuality.

Take a look at what Paul says on the topic in the Message version of 1 Corinthians 6:16-20,

“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body. (Message)

Sex is more that skin on skin. Sex. Is. More. So often in the Church we focus on ‘sex is bad…wrong…sinful…’ rather than MORE. So much more than we make it out to be in movies like No Strings Attached, among others.

So what exactly is the ‘more’? We can glean some insight from the verse above:

  • We value the sacredness of our own bodies
  • We honor sex as an act made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another
  • We realize our physical being as a place where the Holy Spirit dwells
  • We acknowledge our bodies as a gift for which God paid a high price
  • We sign off ownership of our bodies to God
  • We desire God to be reflected in our lifestyle and how we conduct our bodies

Wow. Sex is SO MUCH MORE than the movies and society at large make it out to be. How sad that we expect and settle for so much less!

The question now is how do we let this message get across in the No Strings Attached world in which we live? Sadly, spouting off Bible verses is no longer a compelling enough reason for the younger generation.

The answer is you and me. Now that we know the Truth, we need to walk in complete obedience to it–not in a rule following or legalistic way–but in a way that makes people want God’s way. In a way that shines the light, love, goodness and glory of God through our bodies and our sexuality. In a way that focuses less on the sinfulness and wrong-doing of sex before marriage and MORE on the holiness, wholeness, beauty and doing right of saving it for marriage.

I want more. Don’t you?

We don’t need people who give God lip service, but when it comes to living it out so easily compromise. It doesn’t mean we have to be perfect, but God is looking for people who are earnestly seeking to walk the talk. Who believe in Him and live what they profess, not because they want to be holier-than-thou religious fanatics, but because they genuinely love Him and want to live a life that gives honor to His name. And because they see the value in doing things His way, by the strength of His grace and power of His Holy Spirit.

It’s the SO MUCH MORE way! Don’t miss out.

Action Plan: Take a moment to assess your own thoughts, attitudes and behaviors towards sex. Does your life repel or attract people to the things of God? Be honest and get real–with yourself and with God. Ask Him to show you His perspective on the matter. Get some people around you to help you and hold you accountable to living in a way that honors God in your body and sexuality. We need to lean on each other if we are going to overcome the temptations of this No Strings Attached world. We never have to go at it alone!

Question for Dialogue and Discussion: What are some creative and innovative ways to appeal to (not repel) the younger generation with a Biblical view of sex and sexuality?

2 Comments on “Sex: So Much More

  1. Ali,
    I am so happy you wrote on this subject. Reading your past post on the movie I wondered by you did not talk about such an important part of our lives…and now I know..
    Thank you for putting into words what I feel is the healthy and loving way to love sexually.

  2. Me and my boyfriend has been dating for 5months now.We both have accepted the Lord Jesus as our Saviour,but we failed badly to uphold His standards when coming to sex.We are planning to get married in the nearby future.Myself and him desire to have a God-honoring relationship,we really do.And have desided today that we are putting doing boundaries,but I’ve worried the whole time whether it is still possible to get back on track and do everything God’s way.And what God has been talking to my heart while reading your post”Repent.And rely on Me,on My strength.Not your own.” I want to get my life and my relationship right with God.I want to live my life (publicly and privately)knowing I make Him happy…Please pray for us

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